This is not exactly what I wanted to share with you all for my come back post but let me just share with you just the same.
Can you keep a secret? The kids will have their own room soon.
Yep, that is right. Alex is already six and Max is turning three next month. While Max still breastfeeds from me, I think by the time their own room is ready, she will be too. I talk to her about moving to her own bed and stopping from breastfeeding from mommy from time to time when I remember and so far, she agreed to me – ONLY ONCE. Most of the time, she would throw a fit and start kicking and hitting. Well, I still have some time.
With regards to their room, since it will be theirs, we asked Alex to decide on some stuff. Like the color of their bed frame and the main light. She said pink would be the color of their bed, not very unusual for a kikay girl like her. So I picked a hot pink tone and I am glad she liked it. For the light, she picked one with flowers design although they do not really reflect when the power is on. It is simply a design.
Many says it is a good practice to include children in decision-making. That way, they learn the concept of consequence. Every decision yields something, be it good or bad. And whatever the outcome is, people should learn from it. I am not saying that when we allow our children to decide early in life, they will end up making good decisions all the time but I know that they will realize early in life what a good decision is and what is not.
In our recent trip to the mall, Max stopped by a window of a store and she started pointing to something. There were stuffed animal toys and a wide variety of lamp shades displayed. I was silly to think that Max wanted a lamp shade for their room and that was what she was pointing too. Then I noticed the stuffed animals. Hahaha!
Sometimes I just want to cry because each time we allow the kids to decide on something, it reminds me that they are no longer babies. And sooner or later, they will be making bigger decisions than the color of their bed frame.